The Worst Thing You’re Saying to Your Partner Without Realizing It
1. “You are my entire world.”
There is such a thing as being overly dependent on a significant other,” Louis says. “We shouldn’t expect our partners to meet our every need. This sets yourself and your partner up for failure and disappointment.” And for more red flags to be aware of, find out why Half of Men Say They Would Break Up With a Woman Who Does This.
2. “You saved my life.”
Irizarry says the statement “You saved my life” can give your partner a dangerous sense of power over you, as it “elevates your partner to a position of a savior or a god.”
Plus, she notes, “the seed is planted that the expectation is set so high for them that they cannot be human and make a mistake, which they know is inevitable and an unreasonable expectation.” And for more things you may be doing wrong in your relationship, check out The Worst Way You’re Thanking Your Partner, New Study Says.
3. “I don’t know what I’d do without you.”
The phrase “I don’t know what I’d do without you” has the same sentiment as “I can’t live without you,” says Nicole Arzt, LMFT, a licensed marriage therapist who works with Well Beings Counselling. She says while you may think this sounds sweet, it actually makes you sound helpless, which can “make your partner feel uncomfortable or even trapped.”
4. “You complete me.”
Despite what Jerry Maguire would have you believing, your partner cannot “complete” you, says Darcie Brown, LMFT, a marriage therapist based in California. Saying statements like this “diminishes your own autonomy,” she explains, which in time, will make you feel less empowered and in control of your own life. Both you and your partner need to know that you could live life without one another, as no one can “predict how long a person will be in their lives.”