I believe that there is an ideal person for each of us – our perfect match. I really believe in soul mates, because not so long ago I was in the process of discovering myself, and through this I met my soul mates.
I know it’s hard to believe, but your soul mate is out there somewhere and I’m sure he’ll find you. Your paths will cross one day, and he will be everything you have ever wished for.
He’ll be more than that. He’ll be the prince you dreamed of as a little girl. He’ll be the good-hearted “bad boy” you had a crush on as a young girl.
He’ll be a successful and protective man with some serious plans and goals for the future. A man who knows what he wants and how to get it. A man whose priority is to settle down and start his own family.
He will be the man you pray for every night before you go to bed.
One day, I’m sure he will come. The only reason he’s not here yet is because God thinks you need a little more time. A little more time for yourself.
You need to work on yourself more. You need to reach some of your own dreams and goals. First you need to build yourself up as an independent woman.
Your soul mate will come into your life when it is time. There are some things in life that you cannot control and this is one of them.
So why worry about things that are out of your control? Why bother with them when you are not the one who decides the timing of these things?
I have also focused my whole life on finding “the One”, and where has it gotten me? Nowhere. I’ve just been neglecting my own needs. I was jealous of every happy couple I saw on the street.
I started to think that maybe the real problem was inside me. I kept feeling like I wasn’t good enough, and I didn’t know how to get rid of it.
I wondered if I would ever find someone who thought I was good enough – who saw me with completely different eyes. Because God knows my self-image was terrible.
I remember when I was in college, my goals for the future were to get my diploma, find a job that I enjoyed, and work hard to become a successful and independent woman.
I wanted to surround myself with a large circle of friends and somehow pay back my parents for their love and everything they had done for me over the years.
This futile search for a soul mate completely changed my goals for the future. The only thing that was important to me was to find someone who would love me and stay with me for the rest of my life.
Don’t get me wrong. Having a life partner is important and should be part of everyone’s goals for the future. But it should not become your obsession.
There are so many things you should take care of in your life before you start sharing it with someone else.
One day I saw some photos of my friends on Instagram. They were enjoying their vacation in the Maldives. Then I found out that my co-worker was promoted and became my supervisor.
That was the day I looked at myself in the mirror and said, “Hold it right there, missy. That’s enough. You need to put your life in order, and you need to do it now!”
I also deserved to travel and have fun. I also deserved to get ahead in my career. That freshman counted on me, and I had to make her proud.
The day I decided to rethink was the day my life began to improve in every way. I felt calmer and more relaxed. I finally felt that feeling of inner peace.
I shifted the focus back to myself. I started to work on myself. I had to get my self-relationship back on track. Self-care became my priority. I found my purpose in life and it was not about finding the great man.
I worked hard to improve myself in every way, and I succeeded. I am so damn proud of myself and everything I have achieved so far.
Finally, I would like to say something to all women who are looking for the one great man. Your great guy can come, but he can also leave one day.
You’re the only person you know for sure you’ll be stuck with him for the rest of your life. Try to make it fun, exciting, and interesting by improving yourself.