Learn how to make a man worried about losing you, so if you’re in a relationship and feeling taken for granted or unappreciated and you want to remind him of your value and importance in his life, then this is the video for you.
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Here are the 7 tips that will make him worry about losing you and turn things around for your relationship.
1. Let go of your anger and stop talking about feeling unappreciated.
Okay, this one is difficult to do but absolutely essential. So let me explain when you feel like he’s taking you for granted or that he doesn’t appreciate you, it’s natural to feel hurt and even angry about it and it makes sense that you would want to talk to him about it and sometimes that’s enough to temporarily turn things around.
However, if things don’t change continuing to bring up your complaints might actually make things worse and despite all the conversations nothing changes. Things just get more difficult between you.
It’s like he sees you as the one who’s always complaining and nagging at him so you must not bring this topic up again at least not yet. I know it’s not easy to do but if you continue to bring it up, you could sabotage your chances of turning things around. So despite how you’re feeling, you must not let him know that you’re upset or sad or worried. Instead, after you do these steps he’s going to be the one missing and appreciating you and he will bring it up himself.
2. Prioritize your fitness.
It’s not uncommon for couples in a relationship to put on some extra pounds and make the gym and their personal fitness less of a priority.
People get comfortable with one another and place less of an emphasis on being in their best and most attractive physical shape. So if you’ve gained a few pounds and don’t have the same hourglass figure that you had when you met your man, getting back into shape is something that he will certainly notice and appreciate. So join a gym or start following a particular workout program and make it a priority.
Make sure that he understands how important this is to you and that you have particular fitness or size goals to meet now. He should be happy that you are making these changes but he’s also going to know that you are going to be more attractive to everyone, other men included. So don’t be surprised if he makes comments or asks why you’re trying to look so good now if your physical fitness hasn’t changed at all since you’ve been in a relationship. You can still share with him an increased level of enthusiasm about your fitness and then do the next tip.
3. Glamorize your looks when in a relationship.
It’s common for people to get so comfortable that they let their appearance fade. If this resonates with you, it’s time to start glamorizing the way that you look when you’re with him and when you’re not with him. So dress well and make sure that your hair and your skin is glowing and look your best.
He’s going to notice when other men are paying more attention to you and that’s going to remind him that other men find you attractive now.
If you’re a person who is always looking your best, consider making a change in the way you look perhaps you could change your hair length or your color or change your style of clothing or change your makeup. Just make sure that it’s enough of a change that he will notice and it’s a change that makes you look sexier and more glamorous.
And the psychology behind these changes is two folds. First, he’s going to be wondering why you’ve made this significant change in the way that you look. He’s going to be questioning why it’s so important for you to look better, for you to look different, and he’s going to question if it’s because you want to be attractive to other men. And again this is going to provoke just a little bit of fear that someone else could take his place. The second thing that happens when you change the way you look or the way that you dress. He’s going to be wondering if you’re also changing your feelings and if you’re changing your feelings about him.
Before I get to number four, I want to explain why the fear of losing you is essential to him falling in love and staying in love with you.
See, at the beginning of most dating relationships and before any commitments are made, both people are working towards gaining the affection and trust of their partner, that’s because when we like someone we show them and we tell them and we work hard to make it known to them in hopes that our feelings are being reciprocated so we are motivated to show our love by both our desire to have this other person as well as by feeling insecure about our standing with them and as I’ve talked about before, the more we invest in someone the more effort we put into someone order to something the more we appreciate and like them as a result.
Now, what happens when a man has no fear of a woman ever leaving him, well then half of his motivation is removed and he no longer has to try so hard, he no longer has to work on securing your love and attention if he has no fear of ever losing you. He knows that he doesn’t have to be on top of his game and you’ll still be there so he takes you for granted.
He under-appreciates you and he no longer works as hard at making the relationship great. That’s when you need to gently remind him of your value in his life and by no means when I suggest that you purposefully try to make him feel jealous or engage in any type of manipulative games, know these tips are all based on focusing on you on prioritizing you and looking amazing and feeling amazing and reminding him that he’s with an amazing woman and he must work to ensure he keeps you interested in him.
4. Resurrect your social life outside of his.
Go out with your friends and have fun again away from your man do something for you. Take up a new hobby or do something that you enjoy. This forces him to recognize your independence and that you’re not just sitting by the phone waiting for his call.
Remember, one of the most important things that men find attractive and women is independence, he’s got to know how full and complete your life is and if he becomes part of it, it’s because you want him to be part of it not because you need him to be part of it. So make sure that you are keeping up with the life you had prior to meeting him. Be yourself and make your priority. Keep plans with your girlfriends and keep your schedule busy, this goes a long way towards helping him to see you as a high-value woman with an exciting life. And when you do that, he is going to want to be a part of that and when he isn’t, he’s going to feel that too. So when he calls you last minute to make plans, oops sorry, I have plans. This will make him prioritize and plan his time with you. He will also begin to recognize that he does not get the privilege of calling you or asking you to go out when he feels a whim he has to earn back that high priority status. So make other plans and he will start to remember how you used to be available for him when he prioritized a relationship.
5. Connect with him on an emotionally intimate level.
What I’m saying is that you create a safe space for him to be emotionally intimate. Think back to a time when you felt really close and connected with your partner or a time when you felt that you could tell your partner your deepest secrets and it would be totally accepted.
We all need that deep connection with someone and those deep and wonderful feelings of intimacy flourish in an atmosphere of safety. We open up when we feel safe, we take risks when we feel safe so create a safe zone for him to be freely expressive to be himself, which means being a person who is very accepting and caring and compassionate when he’s connected with you on an emotionally intimate level he will certainly miss you when he feels disconnected. After all you want him to be lonely for you and loneliness is a feeling we get in our heart when we want intimacy and to be connected with someone but no one is available or willing to connect.
6. Have the talk when the time is right.
This one is super important if you’ve done these first steps correctly your boyfriend will definitely recognize a change and will probably become concerned and might even object to these changes and that’s a good thing you want him to recognize and remember that he has an amazing woman if he doesn’t notice the changes that’s when you should be concerned.
So again, you aren’t the one who should bring up this topic but when he notices your changes he’s either going to step up his game and become more loving and more like he used to be or he’s going to bring up what he’s noticed didn’t want to have a conversation about it and that’s perfect.
And when he does, be clear and honest about what you want in your expectations for the relationship.
7. Be willing to walk away.
You must be willing to walk away from someone and something if it isn’t working.
You can’t lie to yourself or bargain with yourself that although he isn’t really what you’re looking for, that he will change or that things will get better. Believe me, they won’t, and if anything they will only get worse.
He needs to feel that you aren’t willing to settle, that you aren’t going to tolerate behaviors or actions of his, that you don’t agree with.
In addition, in order for him to really appreciate you, he needs to experience this fear of loss. Essentially the fear of losing you, this fear will be even greater if you’re at your best self because this type of fear is in fact rooted in love but he will only experience this if he knows that you’re willing and able to walk away from something that isn’t right for you.
Remember, new relationships should be exciting and passionate and easy when you really like someone you want them to know how valuable and important the relationship is and you want to know that your feelings are being reciprocated so you treat them with as much affection and consideration as you can and that is exactly how you should be treated in return.
Don’t settle for anything less.