Best Marriage Tips
1.Never leave the house without saying goodbye.
Don’t forget to give your spouse a hug and a kiss before you leave for work. It doesn’t take more than a few seconds and can make a big difference in your relationship. “Affection keeps the juices flowing and the romance alive.
2. Keep your spouse’s secrets—no matter how small.
When your spouse confides in you, that’s not something to take lightly. And even if the secret they shared with you seems small and trivial, it’s not something you should tell friends and family members—no matter what.
3. Use laughter to your advantage
Even in tense situations, sometimes all you need is a moment of levity to change the tone of the conversation. “If something frustrating is happening, try easing the tension with a bit of humor,” suggests Tessina. “Don’t poke fun at your mate, but use shared humor as a way to say, ‘I know this is tough, but we’ll get through it.’ Your partner will think of you as someone soothing and helpful to have around when problems happen.”
4. Change things up to avoid boredom
Conflict isn’t the only thing that can make your marriage turn sour. According to a 2009 University of Michigan study, boredom is a serious issue for married couples, too. So you should do your best to pepper your routine with some moments of unpredictability. Go on surprise day trips; take a class or do an activity together; plan a vacation abroad—whatever you do, just make sure things remain exciting, a throwback to the beginning of your relationship.
5. Don’t ever stop going on dates.
“Never stop dating,” says certified emotional intelligence coach Bradley K. Ward, PCC. He notes that you can easily keep your relationship as fun and as loving as it was at the start simply by treating it exactly like you did then.
6. Also, when you go out, try to look nice.
“Make an effort for your partner [on date night],” suggests Strah. “Wear something that shows you care about how you look. Dress as if you are trying to catch their eye and reel them in again.” A little effort goes a long way in rekindling that spark!
7. Make your spouse your top priority.
Your spouse should always be your first priority—no matter what. Strah notes that you can show them that they are No. 1 by “being extra nurturing or by doing things you might not want to do—within healthy boundaries.”
8. Address any issues before they escalate.
The average couple waits six years after having a relationship problem to seek help, according to Bloomberg. Instead of letting things escalate, talk things out with your spouse and address the issue directly.
9. Take responsibility for your actions.
Mood swings and angry outbursts happen to the best of us. However, what differentiates a good spouse from a bad one is owning up to those not-so-great days and learning from them.In healthy marriages, each partner owns their own feelings, behaviors, and moods. They don’t blame anyone else for their own bad moods—they take ownership instead.”
10. Never judge your spouse.
Your spouse fully expects any conversation they have with you, their partner, to be judgement-free. When your significant other comes to you for advice or even just for a venting session, it’s vital that you listen to them not just attentively, but also openly. “Communication involves being empathetic, nonjudgmental, and selfless when your partner needs your help.