There are only a lot of overwhelming feelings and emotions that can overcome you every time you find yourself in a happy and healthy relationship with someone you love. And since everything seems to be going so well, you could risk falling into a false sense of security. Yeah, you should assume that every happy relationship you’re in is really built to last.
But what if you’re wrong? What if they just take you anywhere in particular? You don’t want to end up falling in love with someone who’s not really interested in joining you. You want to be with someone who really makes you feel safe about the future of your relationship. So how do you know if your partner doesn’t just accompany you on a temporary trip until someone better comes along?
That is not necessarily a very easy question to answer, especially if you have no experience in such relationships. Yeah, you can feel everything going well in your romance, but then someone better shows up, and then they replace you just as easily. And you wouldn’t even want to think about the pain an experience like that would bring you.
When you get into a relationship with someone, you have to make sure you’re smart about it. You don’t want to rush into falling in love with someone even when you still don’t have all the facts. You have to make sure you really get to know a person; to really find out what their intentions are with you.
You can’t trust everybody too much. There are too many selfish people who will only use you for their own convenience; and then they leave you high and dry once they’re done with you.
So be very vigilant. Watch for the following signs in your relationship. If you find that many of these actually apply to your partner, then it would probably be better to call them. And if they’re not willing to tell you what their intentions are, you better get completely out of the relationship.
You never deserve to be someone’s marker. You don’t deserve to be a backup plan. You don’t deserve to be a mere choice. When you fall in love, you have to be that person’s priority. And anything less than that is unacceptable.
1. Your partner avoids all conversations about the future.
Your partner doesn’t want to talk about the future because he doesn’t really see a future with you. That’s just the truth. They don’t want you to think that you’re really going to be there long enough to need a discussion of a future that you can share together as a couple.
2. Your instinct is telling you that you still shouldn’t be really trusting this person.
Learn to trust your instincts. You have to remember that when you fall in love with a person for the first time, you can compromise your own critical thinking by allowing your emotions to make the best of you. And that’s why you really have to be in tune with your subconscious.
3. Your partner doesn’t even try to integrate you into his life.
Your partner doesn’t even talk to you about his hobbies or his career. Don’t have your friends or family. They’re just happy to just co-exist by your side without necessarily letting you in.
4. You don’t find any clues to your existence on their social media pages.
You want the hard truth? They want to keep secret. They’re still making it look like they’re available for dating. They don’t want other people to know that they’re in a committed relationship with you because they’re still open to seeing other people.
5. Your partner has mentioned casually that you’re not looking for anything serious.
This is one of the most important signs that your partner is not engaged to you. It’s like a disclaimer they can use on you the moment they decide to leave. They’ll tell you they don’t want anything too serious because they’re afraid of commitment.
6. You don’t really talk about deep, meaningful things with each other.
Just because you talk too much doesn’t mean your partner’s gonna be serious about you. It’s really about the quality of your conversations that matters. You need to have a partner who is willing to delve into you; someone who is really willing to talk to you about serious and intimate matters about life and love.
7. Your partner only shows up when it’s convenient to do so.
That is not a relationship. When you enter into a relationship with someone, there must be consistency and stability. And if your partner hurts you just because it’s inconvenient for them to be there for you, then that’s a sign they’ll miss you anytime.
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