The ability to empathize with others is a great thing. In fact, it is a sign that you are a good person and anything but selfish.
Nevertheless, there are some cases where your empathy becomes a problem for you personally. Cases where you start to care too much about other people and their experiences.
If this is something you can relate to, then you are probably suffering from a condition called hyperempathy. Here are 5 patterns of behavior that are common to all hyperempaths out there.
1. Your empathy affects your physical health
The main difference between the hyper empath and “normal” empath is the reactions you have.
If you are a normal empath, you become incredibly sad when someone you love goes through a difficult time because you have an unusual ability to reflect other people’s feelings.
You are also in touch with your emotional side, you are good at reading non-verbal signals, and you are good at giving advice because you can walk in other people’s shoes.
All these things are, of course, also characteristic of hyperempathy. In your case, however, your condition does not stop there.
The crucial difference lies rather in your physical reactions. You will not only cry when you see another person crying, and you will not only get upset when you see someone in trouble.
Instead, your body will have a physical reaction to all this that can seriously affect your health in the long run.
Therefore, it is likely that hyperempaths will feel sick or dizzy because of other people’s sadness or anger.
Your blood pressure rises, you lose your appetite, and you feel as if all the power of your body has disappeared in the blink of an eye.
2. You do not know how to say no
Another thing that makes you an overly empathetic person is your inability to say no. No matter how busy you are, you will always find time to be on call for someone.
No matter how tired you are, you will always find the strength to help a person in need. You have probably helped others a hundred times before, but you will also do a hundredth and the first thing when they need you.
The point is that you are not only like this towards your loved ones. Instead, you are willing to help those who might be in trouble, even if they don’t ask you to.
Unfortunately, many people have taken advantage of this quality in you. They have gotten used to having you with them all the time, so that they call you again and again for every little thing. Of course, your own life often suffers as a result.
3. You forgive too easily
Another reason why you are used by many is your forgiving nature.
I know; wherever you look, you will receive advice that only great people can forgive. I will not deny this, because forgiving someone who has harmed you only shows what a big and kind heart you have.
Furthermore, accepting apologies, even those you never got, is a big part of the process that follows.
But the truth is that in most cases you are too forgiving. Instead of appreciating this trait of yours, it is often misinterpreted as empowerment to continue to hurt you.
Do not misunderstand me; I am not saying that you should become a vindictive person.
I’m just telling you that you should not continue to allow anyone to get away with the bad things they do to you, and that you should not continue to give a second chance so easily.
4. You are overwhelmed by other people’s problems
It’s not that you simply sympathize with other people’s problems – you become completely absorbed by them.
When a friend tells you about a problem he or she is going through, you don’t just listen to him or her and give him or her advice.
You will not go home and forget everything that has happened, or think about it occasionally because you are too busy with your own life, as other people usually do.
Instead, you will be haunted by other people’s worries and needs.
It is difficult for you to concentrate on your own life because you cannot help but think about how that person must feel, which often leaves you emotionally, mentally, and physically exhausted.
5. You have difficulty controlling your emotions
If you have hypersensitivity, your emotions control you – not the other way around.
You are not just a girl who blindly follows her heart, the problem is that too often your reason has no say in your decisions. In fact, your emotions and drives have taken the lead over you.
For example, if you feel down or depressed, you cannot help but get rid of those feelings. There is nothing anyone can do to drag you out of bed or put a smile back on your face.
Of course, all this makes your life more difficult. In fact, it is because of this quality that you have difficulty functioning in the real world.