You wonder how to get him back without seeming desperate or too pushy?
Don’t worry, here are some tips and tricks that will help you!
If you are trying to get your ex back, you need to be very careful and smart when working on your plan.
After all, when your pride is hurt and you want someone back so badly, it’s not uncommon for you to become a little desperate because you want it so badly.
You are not thinking clearly because you have been hurt and you definitely haven’t gotten over him, you still love him.
And when it comes to love, neither one of us thinks clearly. We’re capable of doing all kinds of crazy things that we’re not even aware of.
But suppose there is another way to get him back without looking desperate or needy.
If you go in the direction of the needy to carry out your plan, you will only make things worse. When he sees this crazy and needy side of you, he will be glad he broke up with you.
And we don’t want that. We want him to realize he made the biggest mistake of his life, which he probably did, but still…
10 Ways To Bring Him Back
1. Do not contradict him about the end of your relationship
Listen to what he has to say about why he broke up with you and don’t argue with him. It’s so much better to accept the truth.
Take some time to think things over and take in what he said and accept it. You can talk to him again later.
Show him that you are a mature adult and that you accept when you have done something wrong.
If you have really done it, apologize to him and if you haven’t, talk to him normally without shouting and arguing, but don’t try to change his mind.
When he sees how mature you are in dealing with the whole situation, he might change his mind after all.
2. Don’t beg him to come back.
That’s just desperate, and as I said, you don’t want to be desperate. You’re a woman worthy of a man who will treat her as she deserves.
So don’t ever beg him to get back together with you. It’ll make you look needy, and you’ll only confirm that his choice is the right one.
Men like women who feel good about themselves and show it. It’s something that makes you hot. Confidence turns you on.
So if you want to attract him again, show him that you’re fine and that you’re happy with yourself no matter what happens.
3. Admit that you are also responsible for your breakup
Never blame everything on him. Think about your relationship, and even if it led to his breaking up with you, take your share of the blame.
Maybe he broke up with you because of something you did.
Admit to yourself that you are not perfect and that there is always more room to grow and find a way to become more mature.
If you also take the blame, he will see that you are reasonable, and maybe he will give you another chance because you have shown him that something has changed, unlike in the past.
4. No contact rule
As long as the wound is still fresh, you must follow the rule of “no contact” if you want to have a positive result later.
Even if you have just broken up, you are angry and there is a chance that you will tell him something you will regret later, something you didn’t mean, but the anger made you say it.
You must not call or text him for at least four weeks.
Avoid hanging out with your mutual friends, because you will probably run into him and not pretend you don’t know where he goes and then accidentally meet him on the street.
If you manage to avoid these things and give him some space, he might be happy if you send him a text message or call him and he will realize that he made a mistake.
5. There is no place for jealousy
I know this is easier said than done, because let’s face it, it’s not easy to see your ex being with another woman shortly after your breakup.
If you see him with a new woman, you may think you’ll never get him back. But that doesn’t have to be true.
Usually a relationship that starts right after another relationship is a setback that is not meant seriously.
They only serve to make you forget and let go.
And while he is there, in the arms of another woman, he realizes how much he misses being near you.
And if you’re jealous, you’ll just drive him far away from you.
6. Let him contact you
You’ve typed the text and read it a hundred times to make sure it’s perfect, and you still don’t know if it’s a good idea to send it to him or not.
Well, don’t send it, because it’s definitely a mistake. If you keep contacting him, you won’t give him the chance to miss you.
If you feel down or in a crisis because you contacted him, call a friend and ask for help or chat about things randomly just to distract yourself from him. Let him ask you what you are doing and who you are hanging out with.
Let him contact you first. And when he does, do not show that you have been waiting for him to contact you. Be polite and a little indifferent, but not too much until you see that his conversation goes in a different direction, in the one that suits you best. Let him do all the work.
7. Strengthen your self-confidence
The most important thing you need to pay attention to is working on your trust. If you behave as if you have zero chills, or if you are slightly stressed, your husband will feel this and he will not want to participate.
So the best thing you can do for yourself is to work hard to build up your confidence, because only then can you tell him that you feel great and nothing and nobody can stop you from doing what you want.
Strengthening your self-confidence will help you to improve your life and therefore your chances of getting back together with your husband.
And you can be sure that he cannot resist giving your relationship another chance.
8. Look as good as possible to feel as good as possible
Work on both your inner and outer self. Look good to feel as good as you can and you will be dripping with happiness!
I am sure you already know that boys are quite visual creatures and that you can never work too much on your outer self.
Buy yourself a sexy outfit, treat yourself to a charming perfume and you will immediately feel ten times better.
You want to show him what a total catch you are, and he won’t be able to take his eyes off you.
The key is to engage in things and hobbies that inspire you and recharge your energy.
If you do what you are passionate about, you will become a spirited, energetic woman who does not need a man to make her happy. And that is the message you want to give him.
You want to let him know that you want him, but you don’t need him, and there is a big difference between the two.
To get him back, you must let him know that you have the time of your life to yourself, and if he wants to join you, he is welcome. But if not, you’ll go on living your beautiful life without him.
9. Do not play games
You should also stay away from any games with him because they will be of no use to you.
Instead, they’ll confuse him and he’ll think you’re just playing on his emotions. Whatever you say or do, do it calmly.
Don’t let him think that you are desperate to get him back because if you do, he will take you for granted.
You must make it clear to him that you mean everything you say and do seriously and honestly and that your ulterior motives are pure.
Even if he does not like something, do not force him to do it. You want to give him as much space as possible so that he does not feel pressured to decide or do something he is not yet ready to do.
You want him to decide that he wants you back, and you will achieve that by staying cool and not playing games.
10. Being willing to compromise
If you want to be successful with your strategy, you must be prepared to make compromises and make some changes.
What happened in the past will remain in the past, and now you must focus on the present and the future.
You need to fix things that didn’t work and that were the reasons for your break-up in the first place.
For example, if you have not given him enough time alone, you want to fix things by giving him space and letting him know that you understand his need for it.
But there are always limits. Never approve of something you are not completely comfortable with, because if you get him back, it is not about repeating your past.
It’s about fixing things from your past and creating new, stable foundations for your future.